Going From Bride Inadequate To Bride Empowered!

Happy New Year Friends! (I know we’re a little late, but better that than never, right?)

We have some amazing celebrations to create this year and can’t wait to tell you all about them! But hold your horses, before we dive into 2013, we need to make sure we show you at least some of our fab fab fab events from 2012 (I know, we are so busy that we’ve had no time to communicate with you whatsoever – but here is a sneak peek of one of our recent cutie couples!).

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However, today is not about gushing over wedding gorgeousness (don’t you worry, we’ll have plenty of this in the coming months – and throughout this post I thought I’d give you a teaser of some of our upcoming weddings), but about addressing an issue I find many of my brides going through this time of year: the post holiday “OMG, my wedding will never be as good as___” syndrome… the case of the inadequate bride! Unfortunately, sometimes the holiday season can create the perfect storm where many brides can start to feel horrible about the whole thing. Think about it: family members bugging for details and comparing everything you say to something they saw on a popular wedding show + your wedding consultant’s (and/or key vendors) office is closed through the New Year and you have no professionals to bring your questions to (or to call when you freak out about something) + time off from your regular schedule to spend hours pouring over blogs/pinterest for wedding ideas = feeling like your wedding sucks and that you should be doing more to make it the best night your friends and family have ever experienced… ever.

taliaandbennett_postcardI love fabulous wedding blogs and love being featured on them (hint… hint… Green Wedding Shoes, Ruffled, Grey Likes Weddings, Wedding Chicks, 100 Layer Cake, Style Me Pretty…)! They help brides believe they can do more than what everyone else does. They inspire couples to make their weddings tell the unique story of their love. They help vendors strive for excellence and innovation. However, sometimes (just sometimes, especially during the holidays) wedding blogs can make my brides feel bad about themselves and their weddings… like they should be DIYing every single detail of the day: like they should bake individual sized pies for their guests, they should have someone whittle the chuppah from a single pieces of wood, they should be weaving baskets to house their hand crafted favors and make gorgeous signs with their beautiful handwriting, they should design and sew their own gown (made from pieces of their grandmother’s gown, of course), they should create a backdrop for their ceremony that no one has ever even thought of before (and it will be stunning), and they should do all this on just 20K!

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Today I want to encourage all you 2013 brides out there… no matter what you have seen other couples doing on their day (via real life or the world wide web), your wedding will be fabulous and fun! Please do take the time to think through details, both aesthetically and throughout the flow of the event. Do intentionally design each detail of the day. However, don’t kill yourself trying to make your day look like someone else’s! The key to personal touches and details is making sure everything that you do for your wedding is in some way a reflection of your story as a couple, your style and/or your personalities! I have seen too many weddings where a bride has incorporated an idea that she saw on the internet and it was not cohesive with the overall visual story of the day and did not make any sense to those who knew the couple. Just because you see something that you like, doesn’t mean it is the right choice for you (and hiring someone like me will help you figure these details out!).

And now to my final point: getting inspiration from the internet can be such a great help to you as you go about figuring out your wedding style and coming up with exciting ideas for your day! However, please keep everything in moderation. Spending too much time looking at other people’s weddings can’t help but make you feel insecure about your own – so please be careful! You are not inadequate and your wedding will be anything but average! Cheers to you and I hope it is hands down the best day of your life!Maria.Jon Save the Date

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