Happy Thursday, friends!
One of most exciting parts of being a bride is getting to have your besties with you throughout the planning and celebrations. When it comes to brides and her sidekicks, we have seen the good, the bad and the ugly. We want to help make sure you land in that “good” category. To that end, these next few weeks are going to be dedicated to everything Bridesmaids! These are the gals (or fellas, if you will) that are there for you on your big day and, more importantly, through your entire planning process. We have quite a bit to say on the subject of bridal expectations versus bridesmaids responsibilities. But to kick off this mini-series about your wedding crew, what better way to start than with the very first step: picking those beautiful girls who will be your support system through the entire event?
Some unconventional brides choose not to have bridesmaids. Although we respect each bride’s decisions, we think it’s a good idea to have at least a couple so that you have someone looking out for you on your wedding day and also helping plan pre-wedding festivities (such as a shower and bachelorette party). There are also brides who choose not to name anyone as their Maid of Honor. This works best when there are only two bridesmaids in total. If you have three or more bridesmaids, do yourself and your ladies a favor and name a head cheerleader so that everyone knows who your go-to gal is!
The Maid of Honor has a bit of a higher responsibility when it comes to helping out for your wedding. She should be the one rallying the bridesmaids to action and leading the troops in regards to planning your pre-wedding events. The maid of honor that you choose should know you well enough to plan the type of event that you want, and if she doesn’t know what you want, she’s not afraid to ask!
Being asked to serve as one of your bestie’s bridesmaids is both a huge honor and responsibility. It takes a combination of time, money, love, and patience to be a part of a wedding party. So, when crafting your crew, don’t forget to take each of your bridesmaid’s circumstances and personalities into account. Just because it’s one of the most special days of your life, don’t think that your ladies will be likely to behave in a way that is contrary to everything you already know about them! For example, if your friend is super budget conscious when you hang out, she is going to be the same way when it comes to your wedding activities. If your college friend lives on the other side of the country, she simply isn’t going to be able to be as engaged in your process and events as the gals who live across town. Keep these circumstances in mind when choosing your bridesmaids. You want personalities that mesh well together and won’t clash! This will be added drama that a bride shouldn’t have to be concerned about on top of the millions of other things running through her mind about the big day.
Your bridesmaids should be gals that you trust enough to be there with you for those big wedding planning moments and girls who have played an important role in your life. That being said, choose your bridesmaids wisely! They will be in your photos forever. They will be the ones right next to you as you are getting ready on your wedding day and right behind you when you’re marrying the man or woman of your dreams. Select people that are positive, on whom you can depend, and who will love you, even in your ugliest bridezilla moment, which happens even to the best of us!
Photo Credit: Image 1 by Ronca Productions, Image 2 by Taylor Lord, Image 3 by KStone Photography, Image 4 by Becca Rillo Photography, Image 5 by Amanda McKinnon Photography, Image 6 by Docuvitae, Image 7 by Lukas & Suzy VanDyke Photography, Image 8 by Jessica Fairchild Photography, Image 9 by Erin J Saldana, Image 10 by Patrick Yandoc