Going From Bride Inadequate To Bride Empowered!

Happy New Year Friends! (I know we’re a little late, but better that than never, right?)

We have some amazing celebrations to create this year and can’t wait to tell you all about them! But hold your horses, before we dive into 2013, we need to make sure we show you at least some of our fab fab fab events from 2012 (I know, we are so busy that we’ve had no time to communicate with you whatsoever – but here is a sneak peek of one of our recent cutie couples!).

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However, today is not about gushing over wedding gorgeousness (don’t you worry, we’ll have plenty of this in the coming months – and throughout this post I thought I’d give you a teaser of some of our upcoming weddings), but about addressing an issue I find many of my brides going through this time of year: the post holiday “OMG, my wedding will never be as good as___” syndrome… the case of the inadequate bride! Unfortunately, sometimes the holiday season can create the perfect storm where many brides can start to feel horrible about the whole thing. Think about it: family members bugging for details and comparing everything you say to something they saw on a popular wedding show + your wedding consultant’s (and/or key vendors) office is closed through the New Year and you have no professionals to bring your questions to (or to call when you freak out about something) + time off from your regular schedule to spend hours pouring over blogs/pinterest for wedding ideas = feeling like your wedding sucks and that you should be doing more to make it the best night your friends and family have ever experienced… ever.

taliaandbennett_postcardI love fabulous wedding blogs and love being featured on them (hint… hint… Green Wedding Shoes, Ruffled, Grey Likes Weddings, Wedding Chicks, 100 Layer Cake, Style Me Pretty…)! They help brides believe they can do more than what everyone else does. They inspire couples to make their weddings tell the unique story of their love. They help vendors strive for excellence and innovation. However, sometimes (just sometimes, especially during the holidays) wedding blogs can make my brides feel bad about themselves and their weddings… like they should be DIYing every single detail of the day: like they should bake individual sized pies for their guests, they should have someone whittle the chuppah from a single pieces of wood, they should be weaving baskets to house their hand crafted favors and make gorgeous signs with their beautiful handwriting, they should design and sew their own gown (made from pieces of their grandmother’s gown, of course), they should create a backdrop for their ceremony that no one has ever even thought of before (and it will be stunning), and they should do all this on just 20K!

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Today I want to encourage all you 2013 brides out there… no matter what you have seen other couples doing on their day (via real life or the world wide web), your wedding will be fabulous and fun! Please do take the time to think through details, both aesthetically and throughout the flow of the event. Do intentionally design each detail of the day. However, don’t kill yourself trying to make your day look like someone else’s! The key to personal touches and details is making sure everything that you do for your wedding is in some way a reflection of your story as a couple, your style and/or your personalities! I have seen too many weddings where a bride has incorporated an idea that she saw on the internet and it was not cohesive with the overall visual story of the day and did not make any sense to those who knew the couple. Just because you see something that you like, doesn’t mean it is the right choice for you (and hiring someone like me will help you figure these details out!).

And now to my final point: getting inspiration from the internet can be such a great help to you as you go about figuring out your wedding style and coming up with exciting ideas for your day! However, please keep everything in moderation. Spending too much time looking at other people’s weddings can’t help but make you feel insecure about your own – so please be careful! You are not inadequate and your wedding will be anything but average! Cheers to you and I hope it is hands down the best day of your life!Maria.Jon Save the Date

Love at the Beverly Wilshire Beverly Hills Hotel: Tonya & Nick Married!

Happy Wednesday Friends!

With the holidays right around the corner, today I find myself in quite a nostalgic mood for all things merry and bright! On this freezing Wednesday (or at least as close to freezing as we get here in LA), I’m happy to share with you a wedding we put together, start-to-finish, in exactly two months, for three days after Christmas!

Last October, I met Tonya and her fabulous mother who live on the East Coast for the first time and signed on to plan her Beverly Hills wedding for December 28th! The family had decided to spend Christmas in Los Angeles and the happy couple surprised everyone by announcing their plan to elope. We quickly chose the Royal Suite in the Beverly Wilshire Hotel as the backdrop for our little celebration.

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The ceremony was held on the roof of the hotel, giving the couple’s families a spectacular view of the hills and city!

Being ‘foodies’ both the cake and the cuisine had to be absolutely amazing (and it was!). My goal was to make the reception a glowing banquet where Tonya & Nick were the king and queen! We brought in both deep and dusty purples to the already gorgeous suite. I was so glad Tonya chose a deep orange cake to create a pop of perfection!

Throughout the day, Nick & Tonya were the kind of couple that simply couldn’t get enough of each other. I still miss my weekly chats with Tonya & her mom Alice and wish Mr. & Mrs. Mercer a happy almost 1 year anniversary!

Vendor Love

Marisa Nicole Featured at Creative Connection’s International Wine Event!

Happy Thursday Friends!

The votes are in! On Tuesday millions of Americans got out and voted for their candidate, but today I want to tell you about a lesser known little election that took place two weeks ago. On October 25th, I was happy to be a featured vendor for Creative Connection (Los Angeles Chapter)’s October Main Event!

We worked together with Emilee of Tasteful Tatters and Whitney of Five Sparrows Design Studio to design and organize a fun and fab event for female creatives in LA county.
 

 

 

We added an element of suspense to the evening by having two mystery wines (a red and a white) to test the ladies wine identification abilities. With all the cultural representation around the room, I was feeling as if we were slighting one of the most important wine countries of all – California! Therefore the mystery bottles, with labels covered by cute wraps compliments of Five Sparrows, were California wines. Apparently I made the white too easy to guess. Despite the Riesling we put down as an option to throw everyone off, at least 25% of the group correctly identified the white as a Moscato. However not a single attendee was able to correctly guess the Zinfandel – my Malbec rouse on the ballot worked perfectly and no one figured out the truth until the big reveal! The winners received perfectly packaged prizes from Tasteful Tatters and everyone enjoyed the evening.

 

The event was a success and the three organizers went home with a couple bottles of wine each.  Every lady left with a mini bottle of wine with my business card attached (best party favor ever!). The whole gathering was captured by talented Emilee Anne Hendryx.

Seriously though, if you’re looking for a fun party to host for your friends, this is the perfect way to get everyone together, chatting, having a good time and without costing you and arm and a leg (just assign everyone a different country and watch the magic come together). Good times, good times!

 

Hints On Hinting Your Guy Toward The Right Ring!

Engagement season is just around the corner and many a fella will soon be hunting down the perfect ring for his sweetheart. So how can you make sure that the unthinkable doesn’t happen: he gets you a ring you, well let’s just say, aren’t crazy about? Once you two have pretty much decided to take the next step, how can you make sure the bling on your finger is something you actually want to wear the rest of your life?  If you’re anything like me (and Carrie Bradshaw), the wrong ring on this finger could have could have been all kinds of ugly (my hands are more like paws: short and stubby, so the wrong cut and style would have looked awful!).

 

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Today I’m sharing with you some ways to get your guy on the right track. Please note, these hints should only be used once the couple has already had ‘the talk’ – where they decide they are ready to move forward in their relationship and all that’s missing is the proposal and the details. Be advised, these should never be used if the couple is just flirting with the idea of getting married!

#1: Be verbal – he can’t read your mind, so don’t expect him to!

Tear DiamondAlthough you’ve pinned 7 different rings that all have the same structure and style, if he is anything like my husband, your groom to be does not keep up with the latest on your Pinterest boards. Find ways to subtly (seriously ladies – subtly) and specifically comment about your friends’ engagement rings or rings in general. You could say things like “I love your ring Jenny, princess cut is always so beautiful!” OR you could mention how you love this old ring from college because it’s so dainty or due to it’s antique look. Or you could mention how at the end of the day you just prefer jewelry that’s simple and clean. The key is positive reinforcement (avoid saying thing like “Kate’s ring is so not cute – I loath baguettes!”) and being precise in what you like. He can’t read your mind as to why you like a ring, so make sure you fill in the details!

#2: Have your gals do the dirty work!

kate-middleton-engagement-ring-look-alikes-001As I mentioned before, it doesn’t matter how many clippings you’ve saved or how many rings you’ve pinned, he most likely won’t ever see them. However your ladies can be your best advocated in pointing your guy in the right direction. Share your likes (once again, be super specific) with one of your besties and have her share it with your beau. Make sure she does it with tact and says something to the effect of “I saw Susie looking at this last week and she said it was the perfect ring… just thought I’d help you out – just in case, for whenever that time comes”, and then have her add in something about a specific super important detail; for example “she especially loves that it is a yellow diamond”… Yeah, there are many guys out there who take pride in picking out the ring himself, however having a photo of what you like and why will go a long way toward making sure your most important criteria is met.

#3: Have an open convo about it honesty is both the best policy!

dia725i-IKUMA-Canadian-diamond-engagement-ring-14kOnce you’ve had that all important DTR where you’ve both decided its time to move forward toward marriage, it would then (and only then) be appropriate to suggest checking out rings together to get an idea of what looks good on your finger and what you both like. He has no intention of getting you a ring that you won’t like and you certainly don’t want to get a ring that makes your finger look fat, so take a trip together to a jeweler to scope things out. Once again, be honest and specific about what you do and do not like (without being offensive about it). If he wants to choose it without you there, just make sure you point out the one or two features that are most important to you and let him have fun with the rest. Make sure you don’t get too attached to an individual ring, just in case he wants to design something for you himself or surprise you – the key is that you get an idea of what he likes and he gets an idea of what you like and in the end, everyone will be happy with the result!

Happy shopping friends!