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Bridesmaids 301: Guiding Your Gals (Gracefully)

Hello lovelies!

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This week marks the final section of our Bridesmaids series! This week, we’re taking the heat off the bridal crew and talking directly to all you brides out there. As a gal about to walk down the aisle, it’s easy to feel in over your head. Having people there, by your side to get you through all the craziness is vital. In return for all the love, time and support (and finances) they are about to pour into your wedding, it is your responsibility to make sure that your bridesmaids understand and are on board with your plans and expectations for them throughout the wedding and the moments leading up to it. As you can see from last week’s discussion, saying “yes” to being someone’s bridesmaid is a damn big deal that comes with a lot of responsibility. However, we implore you to make the process as easy and fun for each of your ladies as possible (both individually and as a crew). Get excited, because we’re here to give you some insight on bridal responsibilities when it comes to working with their beautiful besties!

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Communication is Key

Try as they may, bridesmaids don’t have the unique ability to read minds. As a bride, both leading up to your wedding and on the day of, try your best to identify what you are feeling, thinking and need from them and communicate clearly! This transparency will help ease the potential drama if everyone knows their expected roles and responsibilities from day-one.

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Plus- Ones

As happy as your bridesmaids are to stand up with you on your wedding day, it is not cool to expect for your crew to completely ignore their plus-ones the entire weekend of your wedding. Be sure to include their dates in as many wedding weekend activities as possible.

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Help Keep Costs to a Minimum (we know, this one is hard!)

Everyone knows that agreeing to serve as someone’s bridesmaid is an expensive endeavor: attire, accessories, shoes, hair, make-up, party hosting, gifts, travel and hotels. Being in a wedding costs a heck of a lot of money! For all you future brides out there, try to keep costs to a minimum for your girls wherever possible. Bridesmaids appreciate having a few areas that they can have some financial freedom in. Throw them a bone in an area or two and they will be happy to do what you want them to in the areas that really matter to you! Let’s chat about a few simple ways you can do that!

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Behold the Power of Choice

Consider choosing a more budget-friendly dress. Perhaps let the gals choose their own shoes and accessories with a few key guidelines. Consider keeping the bachelorette party local if bridesmaids are not in a good spot financially. Make professional hair and make-up an option, but not a requirement. These few suggestions will help relieve some of the financial burden placed on your gals. Don’t expect your bridesmaids to be able to spend money in every area, as it is just not fair to them and they might end up resenting your wedding just a tad (especially if they can’t make rent as a result – the struggle is real!).

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A Little Understanding Goes A Long Way!

As a bride, there is a good chance not all of your gals will be able to make it to every one of your pre-wedding events. For example, if one of your bridesmaids is traveling from a distance, don’t be surprised if she can only make it to the engagement party or the shower. Sometimes the date that works for most of your bridesmaids, is the same day that one of your gals simply can’t get off work without being fired. Whatever the situation, brides need to understand that things happen. Give her a pass and she will make it up to you later.

For more on bridesmaids and avoid becoming an accidental bridezilla, mosey on over to brides.com and check out a post we lent our expertise to that is on this very topic!

Photo Credit: Image 1 by Booth Photographics, Image 2 (left) by Carmen Santorelli, Image 2 (right) by Erich Mcvey, Image 3 by Andrew Abajian, Image 4 by Matthew Bronner, Image 5 by Sorella Muse, Image 6 by Jeff Wallace

Bridesmaids 201: Reasonable Responsibilities

Good morning, beauties!

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As promised, we are back this week with more on bridesmaids and setting your crew up for success on the big day. Today we will be diving into the relationship between a bride and her gals, bridesmaid responsibilities and reasonable bridal expectations. As brides, we know things can get pretty hectic, which is why it’s great to have a group of girls who are there to help out when times are stressful. However, if you expect too much from your bridesmaids throughout the process, it can lead to some serious tension between you and your gals. It can cause major drama leading up to the wedding, leaving the bride alone throughout the planning process, without the genuine support and engaged participation from her gals (also making the planning less fun). We’ve seen bridesmaids quit or be fired. We want to help you avoid all that ugliness and to that end, we’re here to help draw over that blurred line between being an understanding bride and a bridezilla!

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Overall Responsibilities

Bridesmaids should generally be excited and supportive throughout the wedding planning process. They should periodically check in with the bride and even offer to help every once in a while. They should be game to wear and do just about whatever the bride has in mind (as long as she isn’t asking them to wear or do something they are super uncomfortable with and is not costing them a ridiculous amount of money). Bridesmaids should do their best to keep the day’s focus on the bride. They should be present and able to help with touch-ups or the bustle. They should make sure the bride is eating and drinking water. And once the party is in full swing, they should be out on the dance floor letting loose with the bride!

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Pre-Wedding Events

The bride really shouldn’t have to deal with the details of the bridal shower and bachelorette party. Once a bride has communicated her ideal guest list and offered some dates that might work, she should be able to duck out of the conversation and just show up and enjoy. Local bridesmaids should ban together (sometimes with family members) to plan, pay for and execute both the bridal shower and bachelorette party. Barring personal emergencies or completely inflexible work obligations, bridesmaids should try to attend all pre-wedding events that are within a reasonable distance and at a reasonable price point.

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General Wedding Assistance

When called upon, most bridesmaids should participate in helping the bride get some of her more time and/or labor intensive projects completed for the wedding day. If the bride asks her girls to come together for a day of wine and invitation assembly, the bridesmaids should do their best to make it. If the bride invites a bridesmaid to a dress fitting and it works with her schedule, she should make an effort to go.

The wedding of Irene Legaspi and Chris Josol was photography by Hannah Arista for Docuvitae at the Carondelet House in Los Angeles, CA on September 27th, 2014.

Going Above and Beyond

While light assistance is expected of all bridesmaids, they should not be expected to serve in the capacity of a wedding planner. Yes, they can help out with a few of those DIY projects and potentially attend a meeting or two. However anything other than that is truly over and above. Do yourself a favor and hire a wedding planner that feels like a friend who just happens to be a professional wedding designer (pick me, pick me!) to really dive into working out all the lovely details with you.

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Gifting

As a bridesmaid, attending numerous parties leading up to a wedding translates to giving the bride a lot of gifts in a relatively short period of time. If a bridesmaid has poured her energy into your wedding, hosted events in your honor and/or traveled far and wide to celebrate with you, please do not expect a big wedding gift from her. Actually, I encourage you to let her off the hook altogether when it comes to a wedding gift and let her know that she has done more than enough in terms of a wedding present.

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Emotional Availability

Again, your bridesmaids love you and are happy to be a part of this process with you. But even bridesmaids have their bad days. Try not to expect that every time you want to talk about something regarding your wedding, they will be able to chat at length regarding your wedding details. Sometimes a bridesmaid will say the wrong thing. Sometimes they are just too busy to toil over your exact shade of lipstick or if you should choose red velvet or black and white cake. Remember, this is your wedding, not theirs. It would be impossible to expect that they would be as emotionally tied to and invested in the minutia of your wedding details as you are. Being a bridesmaid shouldn’t only feel like a chore. Unfortunately, how a bride interacts with her friends leading up to and on her wedding day can affect her relationships with these ladies for the rest of their lives. If you follow these tips and advice, we are hopeful that your bridesmaids will be as important to you for years to come as they are on your wedding day!

Photo Credit: Image 1 by Lukas & Suzy VanDyke; Image 2 by Andrew Abajian; Image 3 by Booth Photographics; Image 4 and 5 by Iris And Light; Image 6 by Docuvitae; Image 7 by Iris And Light; Image 8 by Booth Photographics

 

 

 

Bridesmaids 101: Crafting Your Crew

Happy Thursday, friends!

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One of most exciting parts of being a bride is getting to have your besties with you throughout the planning and celebrations. When it comes to brides and her sidekicks, we have seen the good, the bad and the ugly. We want to help make sure you land in that “good” category. To that end, these next few weeks are going to be dedicated to everything Bridesmaids! These are the gals (or fellas, if you will) that are there for you on your big day and, more importantly, through your entire planning process. We have quite a bit to say on the subject of bridal expectations versus bridesmaids responsibilities. But to kick off this mini-series about your wedding crew, what better way to start than with the very first step: picking those beautiful girls who will be your support system through the entire event?

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Some unconventional brides choose not to have bridesmaids. Although we respect each bride’s decisions, we think it’s a good idea to have at least a couple so that you have someone looking out for you on your wedding day and also helping plan pre-wedding festivities (such as a shower and bachelorette party). There are also brides who choose not to name anyone as their Maid of Honor. This works best when there are only two bridesmaids in total. If you have three or more bridesmaids, do yourself and your ladies a favor and name a head cheerleader so that everyone knows who your go-to gal is!

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The Maid of Honor has a bit of a higher responsibility when it comes to helping out for your wedding. She should be the one rallying the bridesmaids to action and leading the troops in regards to planning your pre-wedding events. The maid of honor that you choose should know you well enough to plan the type of event that you want, and if she doesn’t know what you want, she’s not afraid to ask!

The wedding of Irene Legaspi and Chris Josol was photography by Hannah Arista for Docuvitae at the Carondelet House in Los Angeles, CA on September 27th, 2014.

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Being asked to serve as one of your bestie’s bridesmaids is both a huge honor and responsibility. It takes a combination of time, money, love, and patience to be a part of a wedding party. So, when crafting your crew, don’t forget to take each of your bridesmaid’s circumstances and personalities into account. Just because it’s one of the most special days of your life, don’t think that your ladies will be likely to behave in a way that is contrary to everything you already know about them! For example, if your friend is super budget conscious when you hang out, she is going to be the same way when it comes to your wedding activities. If your college friend lives on the other side of the country, she simply isn’t going to be able to be as engaged in your process and events as the gals who live across town. Keep these circumstances in mind when choosing your bridesmaids. You want personalities that mesh well together and won’t clash! This will be added drama that a bride shouldn’t have to be concerned about on top of the millions of other things running through her mind about the big day.

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Your bridesmaids should be gals that you trust enough to be there with you for those big wedding planning moments and girls who have played an important role in your life. That being said, choose your bridesmaids wisely! They will be in your photos forever. They will be the ones right next to you as you are getting ready on your wedding day and right behind you when you’re marrying the man or woman of your dreams. Select people that are positive, on whom you can depend, and who will love you, even in your ugliest bridezilla moment, which happens even to the best of us!

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Photo Credit: Image 1 by Ronca Productions, Image 2 by Taylor Lord, Image 3 by KStone Photography, Image 4 by Becca Rillo Photography, Image 5 by Amanda McKinnon Photography, Image 6 by Docuvitae, Image 7 by Lukas & Suzy VanDyke Photography, Image 8 by Jessica Fairchild Photography, Image 9 by Erin J Saldana, Image 10 by Patrick Yandoc

Intern Spotlight: Meet Lauren!

Hi lovelies!

My name is Lauren and I am so excited to be the newest intern at Marisa Nicole Events! I cannot wait to learn what it takes to pull off the perfect wedding with Marisa and her team! Since you may be seeing me around this fall, I thought I would give you a bit of an introduction as to who I am…
Intern Spotlight: Lauren

  • Favorite Wedding Blog: My favorite would have to be Wedding Chicks! I love the organized layout and how it gives off a Pinterest feel. Who doesn’t love a good pin for all of your big day inspiration?
  • Describe the Perfect Wedding Cake Flavor Combo: I have the biggest sweet tooth ever so you won’t see me turning down any type of cake! If I had to choose, I’d say that my absolute favorite would be a vanilla cake with a passion fruit curd and vanilla buttercream. There’s something so wonderful about the simplicity of a vanilla cake with that added surprise bonus of fresh fruit. It’s sure to send your taste buds on a whirl wind!
  • Favorite Styling Genre for Event Design: I love classic weddings with personal touches. The combination of romantic flower and candle centerpieces with details specific to the couple make any wedding day so special and intimate!
  • Event Planning Super Hero Skill: Being able to stop time. It’d be so helpful to pause time to get multiple things done before pressing play again.
  • Favorite Wedding Tradition: I love when the father of the bride walks his daughter down the aisle. The proud look on his face when he sees the woman his little girl has grown into is such a special moment.
  • The moment in every wedding that never fails to bring you to tears: The moment the bride and groom look at each other for the first time as the bride walks down the aisle always makes my eyes water. And if the groom starts to tear up seeing his bride, I will be sure to lose it.